Op-Ed
Via Tonl

Asexual Pansexual—On Performing Queerness Without Having Sex

How do we hold onto identity in a world full of expectations about what you do with your private parts.

Asexual pansexual—the title reads like that of a bad poem and in a parallel universe it may very well be but for now, it is the one I carry. One I use so those around me can identify/roughly guess what I do with my genitals and heart (but mainly my genitals). With the title, however, comes the weight of having to live up to what I claim to be. To perform, for lack of a better term, my queerness in order to prove to the world that I am, in fact, what I say I am.

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Writing

A Plea for the Living and Unborn: Reflections On an Abortion

A father-to-be reflects on asking his partner to get an abortion she didn't want and wonders what could have been.

Dear beloved,

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Arts + Culture

Don’t Give Me Flowers; I Am Not a Goat

Important instructions for those hoping to date a Nigerian girl.

So, you are in love with a Nigerian girl and you are looking for her mumu button so that she can fall further for you. Please my brother whatever you do, do not give her flowers. I repeat: Do. Not. Give. Her. Flowers. Just purge the overdose of Hollywood in your system that’s making you think every girl loves flowers. Shun that inner voice—it’s a trap. I will tell you why.

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