5 Online Resources For Discussing African Sexuality

These podcasts and blogs are where the conversation happens.

Where do we go when we want to find African perspectives on love, sex and relationships? Podcasts and blogs, of course!

Digital spaces are now the center for discussions of subjects that can sometimes be difficult to have in the flesh. By entering these spaces we can connect with discussions around the social politics of love and sex while leaving entertained. Here are a few of the sites that we love.

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Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women

Running for almost 10 years, Adventures has the reputation of being one of the oldest online resource blogs discussing the various experiences and sexualities of African women. Started by two Ghanaian women, Nana Sekyiamah and Malaka Grant, the website tackles a wide range of discussion topics from miscarriages and reluctant celibates to Christianity, and sexual violence in non-heterosexual relationships. It is open to submissions, and consequently welcomes a truly vast range of experiences from African women all over the world. In this way, readers are bound to find something that resonates with them, and serves as both a resource guide and activist space for more open and genuine conversation about the politics and complications of sexual pleasure and relationships.

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Launched and curated by Tiffany Mugo, HOLAAfrica provides an online space for queer African women to commune on their experiences and challenges. By documenting and sharing narratives, HolaAfrica maintains a visible archive – much against the suppression that many queer folk face – of queer women loving and living their lives. The website also produces several zines and workshops in collaboration with other organizations such as the Coalition of African Lesbians and Frida. Some of their publications focus on safe sex and pleasure, as well as work by queer artists. Their website is informative, and offers several resources on a wide range of topics from gender-based violence to tips and strategies for activists, as well as a list of educational documentaries and films. Additionally, they have an incredible podcast and twitter presence!

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The Spread

Hosted weekly on soundcloud by Kaz and Nini, The Spread, in their own words, “is a show about sex positivity and open conversation." By sharing their own personal experiences, Kaz and Nini offer perspective on sex and sexuality, and highlight topics such as contraceptive use, female pleasure, and safe sex. Their candid conversations work to address exploratory topics around sex, delving into the intricacies of touch, non-monogamous relationships and the use of aphrodisiacs. They also engage with listeners and provide information on a miscellaneous range of related matters like body image and slut shaming. Their energy is contagious, and this show is great for those who enjoy listening to podcasts and appreciate the spontaneity of laughter and cheeky side commentary!

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Divorce Diaries

Divorce Diaries is a weekly section on divorce that runs on Jaruma's Online Lifestyle Magazine, and shares the experiences of people who have been divorced. Describing itself as “The Voice of the Modern Arewa Woman," the magazine seeks to represent the voices of people from the Northern parts of Nigeria, inviting perspectives from Katsina, Borno, Kaduna and several other states in the country. In these stories, matters of wealth, gender inequality and social-class take center stage, as narrators explain the in-and-outs of their relationships, and how they eventually failed. Some narratives revolve around parental-relationships, religion and child custody, and demonstrate the role of societal norms and institutions in those cases. The stories come from people who occupy a wide range of social positions, including doctors, bankers and students. Usually ending with a word of caution, this series is a testament to the power of narration, and sheds light on the difficulties that arise in matters of love, sex and marriage. The show is also wildly popular on twitter, and can also be found on the Jaruma's page or under the hashtag #DivorceDiaries.

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Kenyan Queer Questions

This podcast by Anthony Oluouch and Immah Reid offers an honest look at the perspectives and experiences of queer life in Kenya. Designed to address the questions of listeners, Oluouch and Reid spark their discussions by challenging assumptions, correcting misinformation and providing new and accurate information. They do this by offering thoughts based on their own personal experiences as well as, speaking on the realities of life for queer people. Some of these questions range from the inner workings of queer relationships to how queer people handle homophobia in their families. What makes this podcast so important is the way it demonstrates that the personal is always melded with the political, and its insistence on protecting queer folk.

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Freddie Harrel Is Building Conscious Beauty For and With the African Diaspora

Formerly known as "Big Hair Don't Care", creator Freddie Harrel and her team have released 3 new wig shapes called the "RadShapes" available now.

Photo: Courtesy of Radswan

The normalising of Black and brown women in wigs of various styles has certainly been welcomed by the community, as it has opened up so many creative avenues for Black women to take on leadership roles and make room for themselves in the industry.

Radswan (formerly known as Big Hair Don't Care), is a lifestyle brand "bringing a new perspective on Blackness through hair, by disrupting the synthetic market with innovative and sustainable products." Through their rebrand, Radswan aims to, "upscale the direct-to-consumer experience holistically, by having connected conversations around culture and identity, in order to remove the roots of stigma."

The latest from French-Cameroonian founder and creator Freddie Harrel - who was featured on our list of 100 women of 2020 - has built her career in digital marketing and reputation as an outspoken advocate for women's empowerment. On top of her business ventures, the 2018 'Cosmopolitan Influencer of the Year' uses her platform to advocate for women's empowerment with 'SHE Unleashed,' a workshop series where women of all ages come together to discuss the issues that impact the female experience, including the feeling of otherness, identity politics, unconscious bias, racism and sexism.

And hair is clearly one of her many passions, as Freddie says, "Hair embodies my freest and earliest form of self expression, and as a shapeshifter, I'm never done. I get to forever reintroduce my various angles, tell all my stories to this world that often feels constrained and biased."

Armed with a committee of Black women, Freddie has cultivated Radswan and the aesthetic that comes with the synthetic but luxurious wigs. The wigs are designed to look like as though the hair is growing out of her own head, with matching lace that compliments your own skin colour.

By being the first brand to use recycled fibres, Radswan is truly here to change the game. The team has somehow figured out how to make their products look and feel like the real thing, while using 0% human hair and not negotiating on the price, quality or persona.

In 2019, the company secured £1.5m of investment led by BBG Ventures with Female Founders Fund and Pritzker Private Capital participating, along with angelic contributions from Hannah Bronfman, Nashilu Mouen Makoua, and Sonja Perkins.

On the importance of representation and telling Black stories through the products we create, Freddie says, "Hair to me is Sundays kneeling between your mothers or aunties legs, it's your cousin or newly made friend combing lovingly through your hair, whilst you detangle your life out loud. Our constant shapeshifting teaches us to see ourselves in each other, the hands braiding always intimately touching our head more often than not laying someone's lap."

"Big Hair No Care took off in ways we couldn't keep up with," she continues, "RadSwan is our comeback.It's a lifestyle brand, it's the hair game getting an upgrade, becoming fairer and cleaner. It's the platform that recognises and celebrates your identity as a shapeshifter, your individuality and your right to be black like you."

Check out your next hairstyle from Radswan here.

Radswan's RadShape 01Photo: Courtesy of Radswan

Radswan's RadShape 02Photo: Courtesy of Radswan

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