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These 10 Queer Couples Embody the Beauty of Black Love

Loving a black person while being queer is one of the most radical and beautiful forms of love. Let's celebrate it.

Being black and LGBTQIA means—more often than not—to be nearly invisible in mainstream media, as it seems that black people can only be straight, and only white people can be queer. And the very few times you see black LGBTQIA folks represented fictionally or in real life, their partners tend to be white (a few exceptions remain, one of them being the TV show Noah's Arc), as if two queer black folks are incapable of being in a normal, loving relationship.

Even among the black queer celebrities that are out, most of them have white partners.


In an era where being in an interracial relationship seems to be a trend, an interesting badge of honor, black love, as a concept, has had a resurgence recently on social media. On top of that, an OWN documentary was recently broadcasted, featuring black people proudly loving one another. Alas, most of these couples were straight. So despite what we may or may not have seen, black queer couples do exist and it's time they get their own limelight. An LGTQIA relationship in a society that tries very hard to "straighten" people, is one of the most radical forms of self-affirmation.

Similarly, loving a black person while being queer is one of the most radical and beautiful forms of love. Let's celebrate it.

Precious and Myles Brady Davis

Precious Davis is an trans award winning diversity advocate, public speaker. She met Myles, a transgender outreach coordinator at a LGBT community center. They both are heavily involved in their LGBTQIA communities and Myles identifies as transmaculine. As she recalls for the Chicago Tribune:

"It wasn't until I met Myles that someone would love every part of me, my body, my soul, my spirit, the things that I stand for, my outlook on the world, how I wake up in the morning with no makeup and my hair matted on one side," she said. "That's how you know you've found the right person."

Lena Waithe and Alana Mayo

Lena Waithe is a Emmy winning writer, producer and actress. She has written, among others, the webseries Hello Cupid, a few episodes of Master of None, including the Thanksgiving episode and the Tv show The Chi. She also co-produced Dear White people and will be seen soon in the new Steven Spielberg movie, "Ready Player One"

She is currently dating Alana Mayo, head of production at Outlier Society, a production company created by Michael B. Jordan.

Talking to the Daily Beast about her partner, she says:

"She's my partner, my life partner, my better half, she's everything. 'Wife' would only be the tip of the iceberg. She's phenomenal. She's a big champion of interesting writers with unique stories to tell," said Waithe. "She's one of the soldiers on the front line making sure writers like myself not only have a voice, but that folks get out of the way to let writers' voices soar."

Alison Graham and her partner

Alison Graham is a fashion influencer whose dapper, androgynous style has been featured on DapperQ and Buzzfeed. She runs the Instagram page She Does Him where she posts her gorgeous travel experience and street style.

Christin Brown and Ashe

Christin Brown is an award winning hairstylist whose clients include Yara Shahidi and Tamera Mowry. She has been married to her wife Ashe, the owner of the brand Pura Luna Apothecary, for 8 years. They welcomed their first child last year.

Kyemah McEntyre and Leesy

Kyemah McEntyre is a fashion designer and student. In 2015, her African-inspired prom dress became viral and was featured in Cosmopolitain, Tern Vogue and BET. She recently launched her first collection at New York fashion week.

Her girlfriend Leesy is a photographer and artist.

Dre and Tae

Dre is an singer, make up guru and influencer. Him and Tae met in high school. They have been dating for the past three years and are the proud owner of a dog.

Rutina Wesley and Shonda

Rutina Wesley is an actress, known for starring in the TV shows True Blood, Hannibal and Queen Sugar. She is a recipient of an NAACP image award and a Satellite award. She was previously married to Jacob Fishel, an actor. She recently came out by announcing her engagement to Shonda, a New Orleans based chef in November 2017.

Dom and Nick Spence

Dom and Nick love story sounds like a perfect fairytale: they met in high school and became friends. They eventually started dating and became lawyers together. They got married in 2017.

As they told Buzzfeed:

"Dominic and I feel lucky to have found love at such a young age. However, falling in love with another black man was scary in ways neither of us could have ever imagined. It forced us to face the very real resistance from society for being not only homosexuals but black men as well. We had to confront the stereotypes of being largely defined as uneducated, disloyal, untrustworthy, and unreliable individuals. But together we chose to rise above those prejudices and rewrite our own story- one of inspiration. We hope to encourage other black and brown men and boys everywhere to be true to who they are. And when they find love in each other's eyes, to know that their love is just as strong and beautiful as anyone else's.


Ari Fitz and her partner

Ari Fitz is a model, filmmaker and influencer, famous for her dapper style. She has collaborated with the photographer Christina Ting to portray black queer intimacy in a series of pictures, starting with her own relationship with her partner. The goal: to show that black queer love and intimacy is a beautiful thing that deserves to be praised.

As she writes: "when there's a consistent erasure of your story from popular culture, you start to think your story, your love, your fears, your existence don't matter. Which is why i'm tired of white cis straight women in romantic comedies teaching me how to love. No shade Sarah, I've just worn your shoes and seen through your lens my whole life. So, here's mine. Here's how I love."

Brittney Griner and Cherelle Tanae

Brittney is an American professional basketball player. She received the Best Female ESPY Award in 2012 and has been playing for the Phoenix Mercury since 2013. She is a WNBA champion and has won the WNBA All-star four times. She came out as a lesbian in 2013, and married fellow WNBA player Glory Johnson in 2015.

Their union, however, was plagued with fights and controversies, and they divorced in 2016. SInce then, Griner has found love again and is currently dating Cherelle Tanae, an educator.

As she says in her book Brittney Griner: In my Skin:

"Being true to myself has often been at odds with my desire to please others. I've spent years trying so hard to be the version of myself that would make the most people happy. Over time, though, I've come to realize that no matter how much I compromise, some people will never understand me. And accepting this truth has given me a new level of comfort and freedom."

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Sarkodie Releases New Album 'Black Love'

The album features Stonebwoy, Tekno, Maleek Berry, Efya, and more.

Sarkodie returns with the release of his highly-anticipated new album Black Love.

The star Ghanaian rapper has been releasing singles from the album throughout the year, including the tracks "Party & Bullshit." featuring Donae'o and Idris Elba, "Saara" with Efya, "Do You" featuring Mr Eazi, "Can't Let Go," and more.

Black Love also boasts features from Stonebwoy, Tekno, Maleek Berry, King Promise, Kizz Daniel and several other artists. The album is the artist's first release since 2017's Highest.

After a log wait, the artist released the album unannounced on Friday morning.

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Dar es Salaam's Regional Commissioner Wants to Combat Infidelity by Creating a Database of Married Men

The Tanzanian politician says it will help prevent women from "heartbreak."

How do you curb widespread infidelity in a country? Well, according to the Regional Commissioner of Dar es Salaam, you put the perpetrators on full blast for the entire country to see via an online database.

Paul Makonda, the regional commissioner of Tanzania's largest city, has announced plans to create a new database that will list all men who have asked for a woman's hand in marriage, in order to warn women of men's relationship status and prevent "heartbreak," CNN Africa reports.

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In Conversation with Congolese NBA Player Emmanuel Mudiay: 'I want more African players in the NBA.'

The Utah Jazz player talks about being African in the NBA, supporting basketball in the DRC and how 'everybody knows about Burna Boy'.

Inspired by his basketball-playing older brothers, by second grade, Emmanuel Mudiay already knew that he wanted to play in the American National Basketball Association. Then in 2001 his family, fleeing the war in Democratic Republic of Congo, sought asylum in the United States.

In America, Mudiay saw basketball as a way for him to improve his situation. After impressive high school and college careers, he moved to China to play pro ball. Picked 7th overall in the 2015 NBA draft, the now 23-year-old guard has made a name for himself this season coming off the bench for the Utah Jazz.

Mudiay attests to the sport having changed not only his life but that of his siblings. Basketball gave them all a chance at a good education and the opportunity to dream without conditions. Now he wants to see other talented African players make it too.

We caught up with him to talk about his experience as an African player in the NBA, his hopes for basketball on the African continent and who he and his teammates jam out to in their locker rooms.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

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University lecturer and activist Doctor Stella Nyanzi (L) reacts in court as she attends a trial to face charges for cyber-harassment and offensives communication, in Kampala, on April 10, 2017. (Photo by GAEL GRILHOT/AFP via Getty Images)

Jailed Ugandan Activist, Stella Nyanzi, Wins PEN Prize for Freedom of Expression

The outspoken activist, who is currently serving a prison sentence for a poem she wrote about the president's mother's vagina, won for her resistance "in front of a regime that is trying to suppress her."

Stella Nyanzi, the Ugandan academic, activist, and vocal critic of President Yoweri Museveni has been awarded the 2020 Oxfam Novib/PEN International award for freedom of expression, given to writers who "continue to work for freedom of expression in the face of persecution."

Nyanzi is currently serving a 15 month sentence for "cyber harassment" after she published a poem in which she wrote that she wished "the acidic pus flooding Esiteri's (the president's mother) vaginal canal had burn up your unborn fetus. Burn you up as badly as you have corroded all morality and professionalism out of our public institutions in Uganda."

According to the director of PEN International, Carles Torner, her unfiltered outspokenness around the issues facing her country is what earned her the award. "For her, writing is a permanent form of resistance in front of a regime that is trying to suppress her," said Torner at the award ceremony.

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